Have you ever wondered why more intimacy could improve well-being? The reality is that if you feel good about yourself, then the rest will follow, as it is just as much about what we say and how we act towards our partners as it is about sex. The sexual act brings excitement and gratification. What is equally as important is the closeness afterwards, mindfulness and cuddling, that improves well-being. A tiring day can take its toll. Having your partner to talk to at the end of it is both rewarding and stress-reducing. There are many other factors which can help with feeling good and increase intimacy. A spontaneous kiss or hug, for example. Being sympathetic towards your partner’s feelings by responding to their mood will improve mutual well-being and harmony.
- 1 Reliable ways to improve well-being by increasing intimacy:
- 1.1 1. Relationships and How They can Affect Our Well-Being
- 1.2 2. Is Passion The Only Way To Increase Intimacy?
- 1.3 3. Understand You and Your Partner’s Emotional Experiences
- 1.4 4. Have Special Times Together – Do Something Different
- 1.5 5. Tell Each Other Your Secrets
- 1.6 6. Does Routine Improve Well-Being?
- 1.7 7. Openness Will Help To Increase Mindfulness
- 1.8 8. A Good Match In a Partnership – Is It Important?
- 1.9 9. Happiness and Kindness Are Of Major Importance
Reliable ways to improve well-being by increasing intimacy:
1. Relationships and How They can Affect Our Well-Being
According to The National Centre for Biotechnology Information, relationships, whether they are short or long term, will affect us in many ways. Factors to consider are the depth and quality of the partnership. Their research shows that both physical and mental health can be affected. Indeed, children from unhappy or broken homes will find it harder to give themselves totally to a loving relationship by increasing intimacy. This lack results in friction between partners. It is considered to be a difficult problem to overcome, but honesty is always best. Talk openly together. A sympathetic lover will understand and take their time to resolve issues.
2. Is Passion The Only Way To Increase Intimacy?
There are many ways of increasing intimacy. Psychologist Robert J. Sternberg, quoted in an article by Susan K Perry Ph.D., discovered that, after carrying out a survey, physical intimacy was the most typical method. One of the reasons given was the lover’s facial expressions. The closeness of giving oneself completely during lovemaking also helps to better well-being. Of course, sometimes it is enough just to be together, caressing and kissing. Just because this doesn’t ultimately lead to intercourse, it is no less erotic or satisfying.
3. Understand You and Your Partner’s Emotional Experiences
According to UWire, it is important to understand your emotions, so that you can talk together about your more complex feelings. It is especially important for couples that have emotional intimacy as well as sexual, to find a greater bond, without stress, which improves well-being. It is not always that both partners feel like making love, so compromise is the key to increasing intimacy. Showing consideration and kindness will go a long way to improving and maintaining the relationship. If your partner is too tired, then a gentle massage with scented oils will arouse the senses and reduce stress. Perhaps they have had a bad day. Talk about it and understand their emotions.
4. Have Special Times Together – Do Something Different
Happiness is an essential feature in both increasing intimacy and to make you feel happy. A research paper from the Harvard Medical School, showed that by being grateful for life and everything it throws at us, is the best way to see the goodness in ourselves. This gratitude, in turn, helps us to connect with others. To show them kindness and to understand their feelings better. Also, it improves health, the ability to deal with problems and help to develop strong relationships. And not just with our partners, but with everyone. Many couples find that simply by doing things together, such as playing golf, tennis or walking the dog can improve well-being which, in turn, can lead to increasing intimacy.
5. Tell Each Other Your Secrets
Having secrets will create distrust, resulting in arguments, stress and, potentially, health problems. It is important to remember to listen and not judge. When your partner tells you their secrets, they are doing it to unburden themselves as well as find understanding. Be mindful of just how difficult it is to talk about sensitive subjects. Listen carefully and be constructive with your questions and responses. This way many problems that have occurred can be resolved.
Have fun by asking each other these ‘36 Questions That Lead to Love’ and get closer to each other while doing so.
Remember – sharing your innermost thoughts and being able to compromise is crucial for mutual well-being.
6. Does Routine Improve Well-Being?
Some of us think that predictability is boring while others relish it. However, Robert J. Sternberg a Professor of Human Development at Cornell University found that it can help in increasing intimacy. His quote in Susan K Perry PhD’s article, states that ‘the partners are so connected with each other that the one doesn’t recognise the other is there, just as the air we breathe can be taken for granted, despite its necessity to life’. Over time, we can become complacent about our partners good and bad points. Often we know each other so well, we can live our lives together in complete harmony. However, getting into a rut should be avoided.
7. Openness Will Help To Increase Mindfulness
It is important not to try to change your partner after all this is the person that you fell in love with. You might find that you wouldn’t like them any other way! Be non-judgemental, kind and sensitive to their feelings at all times. This will bring you closer together, thus increasing intimacy. By being open with each other, you will learn to sense when something is troubling them. Avoid confrontational moments by simply asking how they are feeling. This sort of relationship will improve well-being and harmonious coexistence. Each person will feel that they can be themselves. The same should hold true in the bedroom. Exchange ideas about what you both enjoy. This type of mindfulness will go a long way towards increasing intimacy and openness.
8. A Good Match In a Partnership – Is It Important?
Sometimes opposites attract. How we interact together in a partnership which depends very much on each individual and their need for personal space. This understanding also explains why some people transfer their affections to, for example, dogs. From a 1997 study, ‘Why Do People Love Their Pets?’ by J Archer, resulted showed that people can sometimes give their pets far more affection than they do family members. However, if this is mutual, then there usually is no problem.
Some of the reasons why pets are so much a part of the family include their unconditional love, constant companionship and appreciation of everything that we do for them.
Pets are also beneficial to our health. For example, the act of stroking can lower blood pressure, reduce loneliness and give you a sense of being. Going for a walk with your dog is another example. Good exercise aside; it allows us to interact with otherwise complete strangers, brought together by a love of animals.
9. Happiness and Kindness Are Of Major Importance
By giving to others, we are far more likely to receive the same back. For example, a child brought up in a loving family environment where hugging and kissing are the norm, will grow into an adult that is willing and happy to show affection. Mary Jo Kreitzer, Ph.D., RN states that all relationships, casual or intimate, are essential to our feeling of happiness. This, in turn, helps children to grow into open-minded, confident individuals. Bean Robinson, PhD, in the same article, states that ‘We are very social creatures. In terms of sex, there seems to be a real need for touch and connection’. Being aware of this can lead the way to increasing intimacy.
The Course of Well-Being in Romantic Relationships: Predicting Positive Affect in Dating Participants. Psychology, 3, 1091-1099. doi: 10.4236/psych.2012.312A161 is an intriguing paper. It covers the different ways in which we try to make ourselves happier. The experiment ran for over eight weeks. During which participants, both in and out of romantic relationships were studied. Results revealed that being romantically involved did not necessarily improve well-being. Many participants exhibited more positive emotions and an increase in intimacy which proved beneficial. In order to improve well-being by increasing intimacy, it is important to have positive feelings about yourself. To be open and thoughtful towards your partner and others, while at the same time appreciating the wonderful times together and putting any unhappy ones firmly in the past.
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